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How That’s bs works
Each issue is about a specific topic (unhelpful actions you may take) that can be coached.
Then I dive into some of the behaviours (B) associated to it and the strategies (S) that one can apply to create new impactful habits.
The formula is Unhelpful action = B -> S
(hence the name of this newsletter "That's BS!", get it?)
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PAST TBS NEWSLETTERS
Portland 2022 marked a pivotal moment, where a wrecked hamstring tested my resolve. As a life coach, I've learned that motivation fuels our journey, yet it can wane when we need it most. Recalling Ultra #6, I unearthed a potent truth: fleeting bursts of motivation pale in comparison to consistent action.
In today's fast-paced world, where priorities shift and time seems to slip away, it's easy to overlook the importance of planning your legacy. However, planning your legacy is not just about drafting a will or arranging funeral details—it's about shaping how you'll be remembered and the impact you'll leave behind. This blog explores the significance of planning your legacy and offers insights into crafting a path that aligns with your values and aspirations. By taking proactive steps, you can ensure that your life story reflects the impact you wish to make, both now and for generations to come.
Mindset coaching is a powerful tool that can help anyone (and ultra runners) overcome negative thoughts and achieve their goals. In this article, mindset coach Luke Fenwick shares his personal story of overcoming negative thoughts during an ultra run, and provides 3 practical tips for other ultra runners to do the same. Luke's story is an inspiration to us all, and his tips are invaluable for anyone who has ever struggled with negative thoughts during a race. If you're an ultra runner, or if you're simply interested in learning more about the power of mindset coaching, then this article is a must-read.
Self-doubt, that lingering voice questioning our abilities, can hinder personal growth and limit our potential. But buried within lies a hidden hero waiting to emerge. Conquering self-doubt begins with self-reflection, understanding its origins and challenging negative beliefs. Surrounding yourself with a supportive network fuels confidence and offers valuable insights. Positive self-talk replaces doubts with affirmations of strength and past triumphs. Embrace the hero within, breaking free from its constraints, and unlock the greatness that awaits. You are the hero of your own story, capable of overcoming any obstacle.
Join ultra-runner Luke Fenwick on his journey through the world of endurance running and the lessons he's learned about living a life with no room for regret. In this inspiring blog post, Luke shares his personal story of how he conquered one of the hardest ultra marathons in Australia and the mindset shifts he's made along the way. Read on to see how he cultivated a mindset of resilience, determination, and positivity, both on and off the trail.
In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. But what happens when the boundaries we set for ourselves become more limiting than empowering? In this article, I explore the concept of boundary-setting and how redefining our limits can lead to personal growth and fulfilment. Read on to discover how you can break free from self-imposed limitations and unlock your true potential.
There is no doubt to the importance of building trust in oneself to face life's challenges with confidence. Here, I share the trust building method, a practical 9-step plan for building trust in yourself, involving defining goals, understanding skills needed, creating a plan, and celebrating milestones. To work, this plan honesty requires honesty and not striving for perfection, as mistakes offer lessons for growth. Read on to gain the confidence to achieve your goals and face life's difficulties with resilience.
Change is good for us. So why is it so hard? Real, long lasting change isn’t achieved overnight. There is no hack or quick fix. To truly transform your life, you have to first change your thinking. Read on to see Luke Fenwick's powerful mindset tips and strategies.
2023’s just rolled on and there’s no better time to step it up than at the beginning of the year as you’re full of hope and motivation to finally be the best version of you. But as we know, that’s only going to get you so far… What you need to succeed are solid strategies from an experienced life coach. Read on for a multi-tier approach to getting the rest of January 2023 and beyond off to a flyer.
It’s been an amazing year… but does life feel a little empty?! TBS is usually all about breaking from behaviours that no longer serve us (or never served us at all). However, this edition is for those that have had an awesome year and need to reflect and accept all the goodness that this represents! Sometimes my role as a life coach is to remind clients “Hey, it’s not all bad, you have made progress… enjoy!” or “Wake up, smell the roses!”
Do you know why most people don’t achieve what they want? It’s because they get distracted and lose focus along the way. To master your focus, you need to be able to focus beyond just the occasions that suit you. It is your ability to lock your mind in with frequency, often during the times when you would rather be doing something else. So, how do you master your focus? Read on to find out.
At a point in your life, you learned not to love yourself, but why? Maybe waiting until you get something or achieve a desired outcome? Thing is, this is fraught with flaws. You should love yourself now by respecting yourself and allowing your actions and thoughts to represent this as the path forward from this moment on. The real question is how. Read for more.
Understanding your limiting beliefs about self-worth may be the difference with you living a better life, the life you want and desire - because you believe that you are worthy of it. Self-worth comes from within as it relates to your sense of being good enough or conversely, not a worthy person. And you hold the power to build it up! Read for more.
Is confidence an issue for you? Do you need more of it or do you need it back? The power of self confidence is not innate or just a gift some people have and some don't. It can be learned, practised and can become second nature over time. My 5 pillars strategy to build unstoppable self confidence will help. The formula is: Clarity + Acceptance responsibility + Learning new skills + Practice + Discipline and repetition. Read for more.
When you know what you need to be doing but you don't know where to start or what with and effectively, you end up not starting at all…you put it down to no motivation. But maybe you don’t need motivation you need discipline. This edition of TBS is not another motivation 101 blog, it's the 5-step plan you need before moving forward!
Emotional wounds, we all have them (or had them) from a difficult time in our past. Studies say that grief takes a minimum of 12 weeks to move through and emotional wounds need even more time to heal. This edition of TBS is about how to heal emotional wounds; less about the band aid solution but more, about the plan to help move you forward once the most important part is achieved which is… read on for 5 actions to take to heal your emotional wounds.
You can build up anything ☝️ even your self-esteem. This edition of TBS newsletter goes over why you may suffer of low self-esteem. Even though self esteem fluctuates, doing those 7 actions over time will help you build it up to a level that will guarantee more happiness in your life. So what are you waiting for?
Do you like what you’ve labelled yourself as? This edition of TBS newsletter is addressing one of the most self-limiting learned behaviours of all times: the labels we put on ourselves. Read on to understand why you resort to labels, learn how to not label yourself and start brand new (helpful) ones.
This edition of TBS newsletter is giving the un-motivated the tools to find motivation again. Bottom line is... don't wait for motivation. It isn't an innate aptitude, something that some people have and some don't, you can create it. Read on to discover these simple, yet life changing, life coach tips.
This edition of TBS newsletter touches on something that I am absolutely adamant can make a massive different to your life: a consistent and clear morning routine. Do you have one? Is it working for you? What can you change it into?
Read on if your morning routine could do with a makeover to help you start the day right. Every day. (wouldn't that be nice?)
Do you ever feel that your life just plainly sucks? This edition of TBS is for those of you - or people you know - who keep asking themselves "why does my life suck?"
We all experience that feeling at some stage in our lives, but for some, it's felt across everything that they do, in every interaction that they have. In this newsletter, I give strategies that are designed to get you back to a healthy level of this feeling. Maybe even make it stop?! Read for more.
Toxic relationships do not only refer to romantic relationships. They can happen between friends, family members, at work… This edition's of That’s BS newsletter tackles the serious topic of living in a toxic relationship. How to recognise if you are in one, what to do when you're deep in it, life coaching strategies to try and instill some change in the relationship's dynamic etc. Read on for more.
Sick and tired of feeling overwhelmed? The world sucks right now but YOURS doesn’t have to! It's pretty safe to say that at some stage since 2020, the pressures of life due to external, out-of-our-control events have created overwhelming emotions in all of us. This TBS newsletter will give you practical strategies to go from overwhelmed with life to in control of YOUR life. Read on for more.
The time has come to speak your truth (again)! People often talk to me about their inability to speak up, find their voice. Sometimes it's at work but more likely though, that occurs in other parts of life, in romantic relationships, with family members... This article provides practical tips to those who struggle with finding their voice and/or have fallen into a self-silencing pattern. Read on for more.
Anger control can be really difficult but anger is a learned unhelpful behaviour which can be controlled, which means that it can be unlearned too. This edition of That’s BS newsletter is going to be really useful if you ever find yourself reacting angrily to situations, whatever they may be, leaving you feeling really crap about how you've handled that and wondering why that just keeps happening without a clue on how to stop it. Read on for more.
Do big decisions scare the sh1t out of you? We’re talking that one BIG decision, the one burning a hole in your mind… looming… the one you’re not making [whatever your reason is] when you know in your core that you should. And that if you don’t, you’ll keep thinking about it feeling incomplete and unfulfilled. This edition of That’s BS newsletter gives step-by-step strategies on how to make big decisions in your life. Read on for more.
We say opinions are like assholes… everyone has one but they think each others stink. Well, what to do when it’s far too common for people to give their unsolicited opinion and when it affects your ability to make choices or live the life you really want to live because you care too much about others’ opinion? This edition of That’s BS newsletter gives strategies to help you block out the external noise, care less about others’ opinions and go on with what you are meant to be or do. Read on for more.
We all have irrational thoughts that creep into our mind at the worst possible time but what happens if you think your irrational thoughts are actually serving a real purpose and are based on solid foundations? AKA what I call rationalising irrational thinking. This edition of That’s BS newsletter explains why irrational thoughts are complete BS and how to discern a regular thought from an irrational one. Then what to do about them. Read on for more.
Understanding the principles of time management through a course or a book is useful but if you ask me, you would be wasting your money and your time (!) because the true synonym of time management is… wait for it… PRIORITIES! And that starts with you and the type of strategy applied to what you have going on. It’s about clarity, schedule and commitment. Read on for more.
Certain behaviour patterns are associated with the ‘victim mentality’. The professional victim has a strong tendency to negativity at signs of any friction and challenge in their life. Self-sabotage is a huge ongoing habit. Sadly, playing the victim card is often just driven by a need for validation or sympathy.